(Shaking head) So you women think you’re clever huh? Well I can’t argue with the fact that many of you are very good at hiding your true intentions. Heck, you are able to fool guys on a daily basis, and I will take the blame for the gender as a whole because quite frankly, we can be easily fooled/manipulated. However, while I am unable to see every situation that a guy may face with a girl/woman he meets, I am able to help them on one reoccurring situation that takes place far too often.
This particular engagement is directed more towards the older crowd, but similar situations can take place with the young blood as well. Now let me ask you this question, how often do you buy a girl/girls a drink when you go to the bar? I’m guessing the majority of us have at least once, and while there is nothing wrong with doing so, you need to understand what it means. Before I go further, I am admitting for all of us that when we buy a girl/woman a drink we are hoping it’ll become more than just that. For those of you saying “Nah man I am just being nice.” Give me a fucking break, and stop fooling yourself. Rarely a guy sheds money for a total stranger unless he has an ulterior motive. So let’s dive in.
Women understand they are able to get what they want from men as long as they do a little work. Unfortunately, we are animals and self-control is little to non-existent. This results in us doing almost anything to get a shot at a female we are interested in. So when are we allowed to get a drink for a female and make sure we aren’t just being used? Well there are a few rules I like to go by, and I follow them religiously. First and foremost, if more than one girl approaches you and asks what you are drinking, that is an immediate red flag. Why in the hell would she care what you are drinking? Oh, I know! Because she is hoping you will say “Just having a rum and coke, you guys want one?” Bingo. Two free drinks for them, and nothing but a ball ache for you.
Second, never walk up to a girl and after 5 seconds of talking ask if they want something to drink. I understand it is a good icebreaker, but all it shows to them is 1. You are desperate, 2. You seem eager to get them intoxicated, and 3. They know they can milk you for a lot more than just one. So stay away from the overly friendly gestures. Lastly, let’s say you do meet a girl who you are hitting it off with, how do you know she isn’t just in it for some booz? Well I call it the 5 minute rule. If you can talk to her for more than 5 minutes without her mentioning a drink then you are on the right track. And only then, you offer. When girls ask if you are going to buy them a drink, it is nothing but a huge turn-off for me and I am sure that goes the same for you. So why is something so random and insignificant a big deal? Simply because it not only shows them what kind of guy you are but it allows you to understand what kind of engagement you are facing without having to dig too deep into the girl’s head. Stay strong, because while it is tempting, the jokes on you. While she is getting a nice free buzz, you’ll be the one with the empty pockets. Just Ask The Boss.
